Why is it that when you try to approach a beauty, she doesn't even bother opening your DMs? While others are already chatting away enthusiastically?
Your messages are still sitting in the unread folder.
Mutual follow achieved.
Today we're breaking down how to stand out among numerous competitors.
PART 1: First, filter. What kind of girls are easy to chat with?
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① Look at what they usually post
- Hand gestures + university dorm background: Prioritize following these. Start conversations about campus life and shared interests.
- Loves taking photos, loves going to bars: They are picky about looks. You need photos on your profile. If you have lean muscle, go for it.
- Posts daily life: Eating, classes, pets. A bit homebody-oriented. Suitable for long-term relationships; start slowly from lifestyle topics.
- Interest-based: First find your own hobbies, then find girls who share those hobbies. Start from common interests.
② Competitor Analysis.
Check the comments section to see who she usually replies to.
I have a friend who is very pretty, but most people DMing her are older men. At this point, if you are just a decent-looking guy of appropriate age, you've already beaten a bunch of people.
It's not that pretty girls are hard to chase; do your competitor research first.
③ Look at style, age, and lifestyle
- "Earthly pure" style, looks like Zhang Ruonan: College guys shouldn't touch this type. The purer they look, the harder they might be to get money from.
- Plastic surgery style, older age: Watch out for content related to nightlife work. Suitable for short-term flings.
- Plastic surgery style, younger age: Good family background, simple life trajectory. These types tend to be more love-struck.
- Internet-savvy, fly eyelashes, big aegyo sal: Love-struck + innocent + less worldly experience. Worth pursuing.
PART 2: How to Build Your Profile
① Basic Structure: Face + Body + Daily Life + Interests
Face: One post showing what you look like. If you're ugly, show a side profile. If the side profile isn't good either, show a melancholic back view.
Body: One post showing lean muscles + fitness routine. Two max. More than that attracts other men.
Daily Life: One or two lifestyle shares. WeChat screenshots, photo collages, etc., with some plog-style rambling (this move kills women).
Interests: Post your real hobbies to give her an entry point for conversation.
If your profile has none of these, nobody will reply.
Example display
② How to Create Quality Without Relying on Looks
If you're handsome, show your face. Don't waste it.
If your face really isn't presentable, take this route: Use black/gray as a base, don't use overly flashy colors. Mix fitness, street scenes, music, coffee, and casual life details.
The key isn't pretending to be deep, but making people feel you have some money, some aesthetic sense, and know how to live well. Show that you have your own life, not just classes, gaming, and lying in bed thinking about women.
While other college guys are still taking close-up selfies in front of their dorm curtains with mask filters, you've already built a profile like this. Just by looking at your presentation, you're miles ahead.
Case study
③ The Most Calculated Posting Method: Intersperse Body Photos in Daily Life
Don't just dump photos. Add something that happened that day, your feelings, or a random ramble. The photos let her see you; the text gives her something to respond to, letting her feel your "human presence."
Order for a photo-text post: First two daily life shots → Middle one body shot → Continue with daily life shots.
It looks like sharing life, but while scrolling, she suddenly sees a body shot, then you casually return to daily life. A bit cheeky, but not screaming "Look how handsome I am" everywhere.
PART 3: How to Send the First DM
① Chasing Small Beauties: Start with Hobbies
For example, if she recently posted a song you also like, quote a lyric and chat along those lines.
Don't force yourself to like things just because she does. You must genuinely like them too to keep the conversation going.
② The DM Formula
Honestly, countless people have already researched what she likes. Saying "I also like this song" might not be fresh enough.
Here is a formula:
Comment + Follow + DM
First, go to the comments section and compliment her briefly, follow her, then send a DM:
- "Beauty, do you have a link for those earrings?" (Hats, clothes, bags work too. Start by asking for links to small details in her photos.)
She hears compliments often, but acknowledging her taste in picking items makes you stand out from the DM pile.
She might secretly think: Wow, this person actually gets it.
After she sends the link, chat further. Thank her first, talk about why you like the item, then say:
"Our tastes seem similar. I've been looking for xxx for a long time but couldn't find it. Can we add contact info? So we can exchange ideas about xxx."
Don't throw your WeChat QR code at her the moment you get the link. Hide your ulterior motives.
At this point, you've already moved several steps ahead of many guys. You have her contact info, and she's willing to reply.
That's enough for this episode.
How to continue chatting and push the relationship forward? If anyone is interested, I'll do another episode.
But one thing first: The essence of romance is attraction.
Don't put yourself in the position of a simp immediately. If she replies casually, you want to kneel and receive it; if she doesn't reply for a while, you start blaming yourself for what you said wrong. Starting off by lowering yourself—how can you date?
You are here to meet her, not to apply to be her dog.
Pretty girls' DMs are already flooded with "Let's get to know each other," "Are you there?", "Can I add your WeChat?"
To stand out, try the link-asking method mentioned above: Find something you genuinely like, ask specifically, then chat along those lines.
First make her willing to reply, then gradually make her interested in you as a person.
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