Talking about INFJs [Regular Feature]
- Always seeing two layers deeper and three moves ahead than others.
- Believes that no one can understand them 100%.
- Deeply affectionate, but their "true love" is heavy; there are only a few slots in their lifetime for who they love, making them terrifyingly severe in choosing whom to love.
- Once they reach the resignation of "this wasn't the right person," it is impossible to reverse course from there.
- They undergo infinite deliberation before "putting it into words," so by the time it is communicated, the person's will is usually already solidified.
- Their intuition is too sharp; while they think it's bad to jump to conclusions, they end up being right, so they can't stop suspecting.
- Constantly thinking about phenomena others wouldn't even consider, so when consulted, they often think, "I've thought about that before."
- However, they maintain balance by having an energy-saving mode, so it's not uncommon for them to be spaced out.
- They die without break time alone.
- They don't assert their values unless asked, so in large groups, they remain in a state of "seeming to say something but saying nothing."
- Generally non-interfering with others, but they subtly offer help when they are the only ones who notice or when the situation clearly improves.
- Dislike unhappy people more than anything.
- When they open their hearts, they become sharp-tongued; the combination of vocabulary and linguistic sense produces unexpectedly critical remarks.
- Since everything tends to become extreme by nature, they consciously draw lines.
- There is a pursuit of a "better self" and "a self they can love more," but since they tend to unconditionally respect others' feelings, it's hard to ignore others' eyes.
- A complicated human who gets exhausted by interpersonal ties but still wants to touch human warmth.
- Analyzing people has become a habit.
- They also analyze themselves. When emotions move unexpectedly, they start with "Why?"
- Because they tend to excessively select people, they struggle with losing emotional control over those who enter their special circle.
- They become strategic around people they dislike, but move emotionally around people they like.
- By constantly choosing the best option for the other person, they gradually lose sight of themselves.
- Even if told "Be more honest," they stumble on questions like "What does 'honest' mean?"
- Lacking spontaneity for negative emotions, they spend too long letting things settle internally, leading to self-completion.
- Even if they can't say what they want to say, they can say "what should be said." Significance takes precedence.
- An ideal is a person without a facade, but since such people truly don't exist, they observe the bottom of humanity (this is prejudice).
- From the moment they expose their true feelings to someone, they become fragile and timid.
- Wearing armor of steel because they don't want to hurt people nor be hurt themselves.
- Have spent countless sleepless nights being sentimental, emotional, and helpless.
- For consultations from others, they often intuitively reach the correct answer immediately. They have the mental bandwidth to consider what the other party seeks and how to convey it, making them valuable as advisors.
- When consulting themselves, they often fail to articulate vague conflicts, resulting in no real consultation.
- Aware of the scarcity of humans like themselves.
- Romantic worries scale up to interpersonal worries, work worries to life worries, and personal worries to human worries, so "worries about romance itself" are rare.
- Obvious, exaggerated compliments actually evoke disgust.
All of this is prejudice.
This is a love letter to INFJs.
