Many people believe that control is innate.
They either think their constitution is poor or that it's a psychological issue.
But the truth is—control is a skill that can be trained.
Just like running: if you can't run 5 kilometers now, it doesn't mean you won't be able to in three months.
Today, I'll share three specific training methods.
First: Breathing Training
It sounds ordinary, but this is the most overlooked and fastest-acting method.
Have you ever noticed your breathing at the most critical moment?
Most likely, you are holding your breath, panting rapidly, or even completely forgetting to breathe.
This state directly triggers the body's 'sprint mode,' making ejaculation happen faster.
The correct way is this:
When you feel you are approaching the threshold, immediately switch your breathing rhythm. Inhale through your nose for about 1 second, filling your lungs to about 80% capacity. Don't fill them completely; over-inhaling creates tension that can be counterproductive.
Then, slowly exhale through your nose for 10 seconds.
This cycle of inhalation and exhalation allows the pleasure curve to drop back down from the threshold.
Use your nose throughout; do not use your mouth.
Panting with your mouth is loud, ruins the mood, and if you've eaten something pungent that day... well, those who know, know.
This is the basic single-point breathing method. Once mastered, you can progress to abdominal breathing.
Abdominal breathing feels like this: your belly expands when you inhale and contracts when you exhale, while your chest remains mostly still.
The more advanced version is the combination breathing method: keep your back straight, inhale through your nose for 1 second, then slowly exhale for 10 seconds without fully emptying your lungs. Finally, tighten your abdomen for 2 seconds to squeeze out the remaining air, then hold your breath for 3 seconds.
After doing this once, the body feels a distinct sense of 'relaxation,' which is the feeling of the threshold being pushed back.
How to practice normally?
On the subway, while waiting for food, or before bed—you can do it anytime.
Persist 100 times a day for a month, and breathing will become a reflex.
When you're actually in the moment, your body will initiate the brakes automatically without you having to think about it.
Second: PC Muscle Training
PC muscle is the one you use when you suddenly stop urinating.
Feel it: imagine you are urinating and then suddenly stop. That action of stopping the flow relies on the PC muscle.
When this muscle is strong, it acts as a real 'brake pad.'
The method is simple: tighten quickly, hold for 1 second, then slowly relax. That counts as one rep.
There are two advanced goals:
1. Lengthen the pause time: from 1 second to 5, then to 10. The longer you can hold the contraction, the better.
2. Increase speed: using 1 second as a unit, the more reps you can do in a minute, the better.
How do you know if you've trained enough?
There's a test: when fully erect, place a hot towel on top and use the contraction of the PC muscle to make the towel jump.
If you can do this, it means your PC muscle has significant control.
PC muscle training can be done anywhere, anytime, with no barrier to entry. You can even do it during a meeting at work and no one will know.
Third: Tolerance Training
Breathing and PC muscles are tools; tolerance training is what actually 'expands capacity.'
What is tolerance training?
It's actively pushing yourself to the edge of the ejaculation threshold, then pulling back, waiting for the sensation to subside, and then pushing back up again.
By repeating this process, the brain's tolerance threshold for pleasure will gradually increase.
Specific operation: When you feel you are close to the threshold, immediately stop stimulation, let go, switch to the breathing method, and simultaneously tighten the PC muscle.
Wait until the 'about to ejaculate' feeling recedes by about 60%, then continue.
Reach the threshold again, stop again, and pull back again.
A key point many people get wrong:
During training, do not set a goal for 'how long I should last today.'
Once you start timing yourself, your attention shifts from feeling pleasure to 'completing a task,' and the brain fails to learn true control.
What you should do is focus on feeling the pleasure itself, enjoying it slowly, rather than gritting your teeth to endure.
Through repeated pleasure, the brain will naturally learn to tolerate longer durations.
Suggested training frequency: Train for 3 consecutive days, rest for 1 day, then another 3 days.
It's normal for the duration to be short initially; it takes 3 to 6 months of persistence to see real changes.
These three things combined:
Breathing is the pedal, the PC muscle is the brake pad, and tolerance training is the upgrade to the entire braking system.
If any piece is missing, the effect will be diminished.
Finally, a word of truth:
None of these methods are difficult on their own; the hard part is actually doing them every day.
The first month is the most critical window. Make it a habit rather than something you 'do once when you remember.'
If you say it works, then go practice.
